She said, marriage is not easy and that many people aren’t willing to put in the effort it takes to make it work, and that EVENTUALLY, it wouldn’t just be about me and him. It would be about OUR kids, OUR finances, OUR jobs, OUR extended families, OUR expectations and OUR future. And that we needed to make sure that the “OURS” aligned. She said I needed to be sure that this guy was THE GUY.